We ARE in a relationship
Fellas! When you get caught with your pants off (and I mean literally), remember to close you're mouth so u don't drop the black 'n' mild you were smoking when you opened the door and saw yo OTHER boo standing on the other side. And fellas if the female your dealing with feels comfortable enough to come knock on the door to YO crib because you didn't answer her phone calls, then it becomes painfully clear that you have a boundary issue. Not because she knocked but because you didn't establish the boundary. If a woman thinks that she is yo woman it's because she is. ..:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
Second movement.
The whole I'm not looking for a relationship line is so tired these days. Don't even use those words. You say those words and then proceed to enter into what? (A relationship) And a hot mess of one at that; where there are no real boundaries, no definitions, and no hope for a future. (WDAFXUP with that?) Learn the phrase...I just want some sex for now. And the truth of the matter is that you DO want a relationship just not one where you have to be responsible for someone's feelings other than your own. You want the perks but not the work. ("And no putting it on us does not count") Self-serving lazy and oafish are the words that describe the character of the individual who enters into this relational agreement. You men know that when a woman is down for you she's willing to be dat bottom chick. I'm talking about real women. Vulnerable women, baby mama's, pretty women, working women, women who been lied to, cheated on, stabbed in the back, and still wanna believe that there are good men no matter how many dogs she dun laid with and came up with fleas. There are women who just want a man to be their own. And yes time and time again we believe the lie that says we can change him. And it's because we can see the good man that you are. We see the possibilities in you and to boot you already have a job.
I don't know I'm running with this thing now. Maybe its something else, maybe you worry that one day we are gonna realize that we're too good for you cuz deep down inside you know you (aint) worth dookie. Guess what...I never even ventured to think that until the day you turned my heart to stone. The day I had to pick my dignity up and walk away with my pride in tact because I knew I was the shyt, the day I was the woman on the outside of the door knocking, and don't worry I've been the chick on the inside too.
I said all that to say; Fellas stop believing the lie that says if I give her the disclaimer my hands are clean. You are still responsible for the wreckless way you handle people and their feelings. Ladies you are not exempt we have to be responsible for our habits. We have children watching us and yes we have to be strong but wouldn't it be lovely to have a man strong enough to be strong with us who wouldn't abandon us when the situation gets thick and our hearts get involved. Somebody to stand up for us like our daddies did when we were little. We need somebody who can encourage us to believe that we are capable of anything just because they said so. Somebody who we can lean on and not have to be strong because of what he's done. Men why do you continue to believe the lie the devil told when we went into slavery. You are the man, you should be the head...and one day you are gonna have to give an account for the woman you left hanging. And that very woman would (if she could) be the one defending you on judgment day even to her own soul's demise. Time and time again you ask us to condemn ourselves to a bed in I Iell when all we want is you to marry us, which is worse? I heard somewhere that God counts our tears and that each one is precious. I believe it. Just cuz I do my damdest to hold them back. I never wanna cry over something or somebody who wasn't worth it. And yeah I gotta be responsible for me and my daughter. I'm not allowed to date jerks anymore. But I'm sure this little bit can be shared with someone still falling into the trap. I don't want to leave the women to think they have no responsibility. I just want to see us all take care of ourselves and each other.
Peace
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